The 3 Hobbies You Need In Your Life Now!

Find three hobbies you love:

1.One to make you money

2. One to keep you in shape

3. One to be creative

What hobbies have you pursued that make you happy, healthy and successful?

Find three that keep you motivated and energized!

4 Benefits of Having No Expectations

1. You take sole responsibility for your decisions. I push myself because I like the challenge. I clean the kitchen because I want it neater or because I don’t want anyone to have to worry about it. This sidesteps any of those thoughts that someone else is “making me” or expecting me to do something. This is about me running my life, doing what I consider important. It’s Nietzsche’s Ubermensch who creates his own values, who doesn’t succumb to herd mentality, who avoids going on auto-pilot.

2. You separate your wants from shoulds. The herd mentality and auto-pilot are usually tied to the shoulds. These come from our heads, our superego, the parent voice in our heads. Shoulds are by definition expectations imposed by others. When we fail to do them we feel guilty. When we do follow them we often feel driven...and expect a payoff for our efforts: Since I am doing what I really don’t want to do, I do expect others to appreciate, notice, give me a reward, pat me on the head, do what I expect. When the expected payoff doesn't come, our disappointment and resentment are fueled.

The way out of this mental dance is focusing on wants – heart, gut-based rather than head based. Values, core beliefs, foundation of our integrity. Expectations are a red flag that shoulds are the probable drivers. Skip the expectations and you’re falling back on wants. There’s you…and you.

3. You avoid feeling… disappointed, angry, etc…. Nuf said.

4. You avoid becoming a martyr. All this disappointment and resentment can overtime congeal into martyrdom, that lethal combination of domineering shoulds and unfulfilled expectations that drag on: I do everything I should. I expect people to …appreciate, reward, etc….it doesn’t happen. I trudge on and on and on. 

4 Ways To Find The Meaning Of Life

What is the meaning of life?

This post is concerned with finding meaning in your life, which is basically the challenge set before all us humans, and something that we are all going to approach differently. That being said, below are ways to help you figure out exactly why you are here, where your passions are hiding and what is going to be the spark to set your world alight with meaning.

Of course, there is also the theory that simply searching for meaning in your life, is the meaning itself, so don’t worry if nothing is jumping out at you, because simply by participating in the search, you are doing something incredibly meaningful.

1. Stop Playing By The Rules

Some people find that the meaning of life is to have a career, get married, and raise a family. However, that doesn’t mean that everyone is meant to do that in their lives!

When you are living a life that is dictated by others it becomes hard to find the purpose of your own life. Children are often directed in one way or another by their parents. For instance, their parents want them to become doctors or lawyers, yet as they grow up, they have a strong desire to do something else. Many of these children ignore their own desires because the rules dictate that they can’t have what they want.

If that sounds like you, then it’s time to dump the rules and start living the life you want. Why would you want to live your life for someone else? You will only regret it in the end. Once you realize that no one has to live behind a set of rules and that everyone is unique in their desires, then you will be able to better find the meaning of your life and where you are headed.

2. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

The term comfort zone is code for a place you live in yourself without fear.

Fear of the unknown, fear of failing, or fear of not being in control.

The definition of boredom and meaningless would have to have the word monotony in it somewhere—continual monotonous repetition creates boredom and certainly does not get you any closer to finding true meaning and excitement. Your comfort zone is simply a less extreme version of an obsessive, compulsive disorder. Strong, happy people with meaningful lives are adventurers. The meaning in your life is obviously not inside your comfort zone or you would already be living the life you were meant to live.

You become more of the person you were meant to be every time you push past your fears. It doesn’t matter how small or big the step is; once you take the step, your comfort zone becomes bigger, and life offers you more opportunities. Face your fears and grow.

3. Find Your Joy

What makes you happy in life? Do you enjoy travelling, helping others, being with family, or all of the above?

This step again relies on a solid grounding in making adventurous activities, that you may just find bring you an incredible amount of freedom and happiness. When you know what truly makes you happy and joyful in life, then you will find a sense of purpose to your life. You will find a direction that you need to go in order to create the most meaningful life possible for you.

For instance, if you enjoy helping others and it makes you feel as though you are doing something with a purpose when you do so, then find a way to incorporate that into your daily life. Change careers and become someone who can help others while getting paid for it.

There is nothing more fulfilling than living your purpose every single day.

4. Listen To Your Intuition

Your intuition is connected to your inner-self. Don’t get caught living your life in complete superficiality. Superficiality is meaningless; it is short term and soulless. Finding the real person inside yourself is not easy but will definitely help you see what is really important in your life.

Every time you have a choice to make, your intuition is there to guide you.

It tells you that you are making a bad choice with negative gut feelings and instincts. It also lets you know when you are making a good choice by giving you a sense of happiness and ease. When you learn to listen to your intuition, and follow those moments that feel right, then you will be on your way to living a life with meaning.

Here Is A Strategy To Help You Accomplish Any Goal Via #TonyRobbins

 

1. Don't Just Think It Write It Down

"Write your goals down – not on a computer, but on paper, or in a journal," Robbins says. "There's something that happens when we write something down."

Think about why you want to make that specific change. By doing so, you become more aware of what you're dissatisfied with in your life and how you truly want to change it.

Writing your career goals down helps you map out your future, separate your fears from reality and can even help you land your next job.

2. Write down the details of why it's important

Robbins suggests you write down the answers to the questions, "What would that mean to you?" and "How will it change your life?"

"By getting absolutely clear as to why you must achieve your goal," he writes, "you will find your purpose."

Journaling has been linked with higher levels of happiness. A study published in The Journal of Psychology suggests that keeping a daily journal of moments or events of things you're grateful for is linked to increased happiness.

The 10-minute morning routine that Tony Robbins uses to stay grateful  

3. Get into the right mindset

"The reason why most people don't follow through is because their psychology is messed up," Robbins tells CNBC's Kathryn Dill. "How do you change your psychology? I don't mean be positive, I mean be smart."

No matter how difficult it seems, be determined to follow through. To boost his own willpower, Robbins does a series of daily physical exercises and follows certain habits that increase his focus and gratitude.

"Frame your goals with absolute certainty – that no matter what, you will find a way to make it happen," he writes. "Even if it seems impossible to you now, you know in your core that you can pull it off."

4. Repeat

"Repetition is the mother of skill," Robbins writes.

Research, in fact, has found that the highest achievers in any given field aren't necessarily the most talented, but those who practice the most. Breaking down your goals into small, repetitive tasks, experts say, greatly improves your chances of success.

"If you want to master anything," Robbins says, "you have to ingrain it into your system."