Could Jealousy Ruin Your Life?

Jealousy & envy, let alone regret, are the most ridiculous unnecessary emotions that our brains can come up with. But, come up with them we will. Stupid brain.

The green-eyed monster creeps up every now and then, jealousy is something that can be prevalent when you are a perfectionist and want everything to go your way... all the time. 

We must channel that energy into something productive. We use it to ignite our fires, we use it to push ourselves further, and we use it to make friends.

God, do I get envious of people. 

With their beautiful products, their tight, tight copy, and their gorgeous hair. 

It took me quite a while to get a handle on the best way to process these emotions. 

There is no such thing as competition.

Whhhaaatttt?! Mind. Blown.

It’s true. All those people who you think are your competition? Nah. They’re your co-workers. They’re your support team. They are your motivation....

Life is too short to think that everyone’s trying to compete with you. Unless you’re a professional athlete or something, then they’re most definitely trying to compete with you. Sorry.

WHAT SHOULD YOU DO IF…

• You see another influencer featured in a magazine 
  Dude, you need to celebrate their win. They work hard, too. They work as hard as you. Suck it up, be graceful, and give them a well deserved pat on the back. And then get back to work and hit up the editors of that magazine on twitter, it’s your spot next month.
• Everyone on instagram is at Event you wanted to go to
   Luckily, we live in an age where you’re never that far away from the event thanks to twitter & instagram. So, you missed out, follow the hashtag. Ask how everyone enjoyed the event. Start conversations. Make friends.
• That Person never seems to LOSE EVER, and you just metaphorically fell flat on your face
  Everyone is fighting their own battles, not everything makes its way to Twitter. Not everyone is a chronic over sharer like you, love. It might seem like nothing goes wrong, but I bet they once had an elevator incident (Cue Beyonce) and felt like the world was going to end... but kept it to themselves. Revel in that a little. 
• You didn’t get that job you interviewed for
  You wouldn't have liked it anyway. Go out and have fun that day, that’s way better than sitting in a cubicle for 8 hours..
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How To Start Living In The Moment! NOW!

1: To improve your life, stop thinking about it so hard

Its perfectly fine to just do sometimes!

2: To avoid worrying about the future, focus on the present

Focusing on the present moment also forces you to stop overthinking. The flip side of worrying is thinking bad about events in the past. And again, if you press your focus into the now, rumination ceases. Savoring forces you into the present, so you can't worry about things that aren't there.

3: If you want a future with your significant other, inhabit the present (breathe).

Being mindful and where you are and who you are with in the moment goes a long way.

3 Ways To Be More Enthusiastic

1. 1. Figure out why you're lacking enthusiasm. You're on this page for a reason. Most likely someone around you is giving you crap about your lack of energy. Very few people look objectively at themselves and say, "Hmm. I wonder why I'm not peppier." But whatever your reason, you probably have an inkling as to why. Is it your job? Your love life? Or is it more of a universal, 24/7 thing that's dragging you down?
   

   • It's natural to get stuck in a rut. These things happen. They also end at some point. But then there's clinical depression and that's a whole other can of worms. If it's something you've never thought about, think about it now. Is it a lack of enthusiasm or is it a bigger issue? What's your gut tell you?

   2. Start thinking positively. If someone handed you a math test and said, "Here's the exam. It's stuff you didn't even dream of touching in college. Good luck, kid," how might that feel? Pretty daunting, probably. If instead they said, "Here's the exam -- it's gonna be tough, but it's doable," what would you think then? You'd be a lot more motivated and feel a lot better about taking that exam! The same goes for enthusiasm; you're not gonna get excited about something if it's terrible!
   

   • Think about it. How easy is it to be excited about something that's doable and that you know you're capable of achieving? It's a lot harder to get enthusiastic about things that we straight up don't think will ever materialize. And what's often the difference? Our way of thinking. Sometimes, that's literally the only obstacles

   3. Define your goals and how you'll achieve them. Now that you're at least trying to think positive, what are the goals that you'd like to achieve? How would you go about achieving them? What do you want to be enthusiastic about? It's hard to be enthusiastic when we're floundering about life without purpose.
   

   • Knowing exactly what you want to do and exactly how you want to go about it is giving you something to be enthusiastic about. If you want to get skinny, it's hard to be enthusiastic about wanting to get skinny. But if you're working out 30 minutes a week and eating tons of veggies, that's direct behavior to get excited about.