3 Small Changes That Make A Big Difference

1. Be Happy With Who YOU are!
Love Yourself and the skin you are in, and if you dont like something about yourself, Change it! Always remember you are uniquely created and beautiful just the way you are!


2. Express more vulnerability.
Compliment someone once a day. The lady sitting next to you on the metro with cute nails or the women standing in front of you at the check-out line who has some cool food in her cart. Instead of thinking about something positive you feel about them — tell them. While you’re eating a salad with your best friend on a Sunday afternoon, tell her that she means the world for you — and you’re thankful she puts up with you. Tell your parents that you don’t know how the heck they have as much patience as they do or the coworker who sits across from you that you appreciate how hard she is working and things will eventually get easier.

3. Switch up your day-to-day grind.
When the days start to blend together and you feel like you can’t change much due to your overwhelming work schedule, initiate a small change in the morning that’ll carry you through the day, like wearing a different perfume or cologne.

Is Your PRIDE A Problem?

1. WE DON’T WANT TO ADMIT WHEN WE’RE WRONG.

This just shows the other person just how immature we are, and how little respect we have for them. While it prevents you from feeling bad, it ultimately just makes you look bad, and can really alienate people from you.

2. WE DON’T WANT TO ADMIT WHEN WE’VE FAILED.

Admitting we’ve failed, especially to the people we care about is hard because we’re afraid it’ll make us look weak in his eyes. Fortunately, if they love you, failing won’t make them think any less of you, because everyone experiences failure at some point in their lives, and it’s what helps you learn and grow. It just becomes a problem when you refuse to admit it.

3. WE DON’T WANT TO LISTEN TO OTHERS.

Getting caught up in our own ideas can keep us from listening to everyone else’s, which then means we can’t see things from other people’s perspective. Acting as though your thoughts and feelings are the only ones that matter will only alienate you and make you look too egocentric.

4. WE DON’T WANT TO TELL THE TRUTH.

Pride may cause us to lie, hide, or cover up the facts. Eventually though, the truth comes out, as well as your motivations for not telling it to begin with, but at that point it might be too late. Honesty is always the best policy — you’ll only look worse if you lie.

5. WE DON’T WANT TO ASK FOR HELP.

For some people, asking for help shows weakness and vulnerability. We want to be able to do everything on our own, and when we can’t, we feel like we’re just not strong enough. But every successful person in life had help at some point, and not asking for it when you need it can make you look foolish because you’re trying to tackle too much at once. Ultimately, you may even fail because of it, and your friends and family would wonder why you couldn’t just ask them for a hand.

4 Common Values People Love

It doesn't matter how or where you come from, there are characteristics we value in others which go beyond social, economic and religious factors. Here are what I deem the four most important:

Integrity
Integrity is trustworthiness, honesty and uprightness of character. We value people of integrity because we know what to expect from them. We know they will act honorably and that they will do what they think is right. We want people with integrity as our friends, on our teams and in our organizations.

Respect
Respect is honoring the worth and dignity of all people. Those who respect others treat them with fairness and courtesy. They treat others the way they themselves wish to be treated.

Loyalty
Loyalty is a commitment and faithfulness to a person or cause. Those who are loyal to their family, friends, organizations and country stand behind and support them during good times and bad times. They can be counted on to be there when the going gets difficult and to help out when the chips are down.

Responsibility
Those who accept responsibility are reliable, dependable and willing to take accountability for who they are and what they do. They believe they have a moral obligation to help others and to make a contribution to the society they live in.

No matter what values we choose live by, it is vital that we look at the larger picture, decide who we want to be, and live our lives based around those values.

3 Ways To Avoid Complacency

1. Start every day from scratch.

Sustainable excellence is about getting better every day. Great performers don’t think about past accomplishments. They don’t take days off when they show up to work. They come to work every day with the goal of getting better. The best performers have trained themselves to set goals for every practice session, important meeting or presentation. Continuous improvement is not a cliché but rather a way of life. 

2. Surround yourself with people who will tell you like it is.

Successful people attract followers who want to be associated with success but aren’t willing to pay the price to achieve it themselves. Their fawning attention feels flattering, but it carries a big price. Because they’re motivated to stay in someone else’s limelight, these adulators will not risk (or are not capable of) giving honest feedback. They fear that by telling the truth, they will be replaced in the success circle. This has been the downfall of many successful individuals, teams and organizations.

3. Focus on process instead of outcome.

Successful people, organizations and relationships develop a process for achieving and sustaining excellence. They follow this established approach with discipline. If they don’t achieve their goals, they adjust the process. People who focus only on outcomes may achieve success, but it will not be sustainable. There is no way to repeat success consistently without a method, formula or approach — that is, a process.  

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4 Ways To Find The Meaning Of Life

What is the meaning of life?

This post is concerned with finding meaning in your life, which is basically the challenge set before all us humans, and something that we are all going to approach differently. That being said, below are ways to help you figure out exactly why you are here, where your passions are hiding and what is going to be the spark to set your world alight with meaning.

Of course, there is also the theory that simply searching for meaning in your life, is the meaning itself, so don’t worry if nothing is jumping out at you, because simply by participating in the search, you are doing something incredibly meaningful.

1. Stop Playing By The Rules

Some people find that the meaning of life is to have a career, get married, and raise a family. However, that doesn’t mean that everyone is meant to do that in their lives!

When you are living a life that is dictated by others it becomes hard to find the purpose of your own life. Children are often directed in one way or another by their parents. For instance, their parents want them to become doctors or lawyers, yet as they grow up, they have a strong desire to do something else. Many of these children ignore their own desires because the rules dictate that they can’t have what they want.

If that sounds like you, then it’s time to dump the rules and start living the life you want. Why would you want to live your life for someone else? You will only regret it in the end. Once you realize that no one has to live behind a set of rules and that everyone is unique in their desires, then you will be able to better find the meaning of your life and where you are headed.

2. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

The term comfort zone is code for a place you live in yourself without fear.

Fear of the unknown, fear of failing, or fear of not being in control.

The definition of boredom and meaningless would have to have the word monotony in it somewhere—continual monotonous repetition creates boredom and certainly does not get you any closer to finding true meaning and excitement. Your comfort zone is simply a less extreme version of an obsessive, compulsive disorder. Strong, happy people with meaningful lives are adventurers. The meaning in your life is obviously not inside your comfort zone or you would already be living the life you were meant to live.

You become more of the person you were meant to be every time you push past your fears. It doesn’t matter how small or big the step is; once you take the step, your comfort zone becomes bigger, and life offers you more opportunities. Face your fears and grow.

3. Find Your Joy

What makes you happy in life? Do you enjoy travelling, helping others, being with family, or all of the above?

This step again relies on a solid grounding in making adventurous activities, that you may just find bring you an incredible amount of freedom and happiness. When you know what truly makes you happy and joyful in life, then you will find a sense of purpose to your life. You will find a direction that you need to go in order to create the most meaningful life possible for you.

For instance, if you enjoy helping others and it makes you feel as though you are doing something with a purpose when you do so, then find a way to incorporate that into your daily life. Change careers and become someone who can help others while getting paid for it.

There is nothing more fulfilling than living your purpose every single day.

4. Listen To Your Intuition

Your intuition is connected to your inner-self. Don’t get caught living your life in complete superficiality. Superficiality is meaningless; it is short term and soulless. Finding the real person inside yourself is not easy but will definitely help you see what is really important in your life.

Every time you have a choice to make, your intuition is there to guide you.

It tells you that you are making a bad choice with negative gut feelings and instincts. It also lets you know when you are making a good choice by giving you a sense of happiness and ease. When you learn to listen to your intuition, and follow those moments that feel right, then you will be on your way to living a life with meaning.

7 Ways To Improve Your Self Image Today!!

1. Stop criticizing yourself:

STOP CRITICIZING YOURSELF! No good will come out of you if you keep beating yourself up for the little mistakes committed by you. You are after all a human, you are programmed to commit errors and learn from them. That is how it is going to be. Criticizing yourself is not going to help anybody. It will only make you feel less confident and hence make you look negative on the outside. No one believe in you if you don’t make them believe in yourself and that starts from forgiving yourself for the mistakes committed by you and learning from those mistakes for your future references. After all these are the experiences that makes up a person’s self image. If you keep holding these ‘experiences’ in the negative light then how can you expect to get a positive result out of them. Learn to forgive yourself. Trust me; this is the best thing that you can do to yourself.

2.       When you look in the mirror, smile:

a simple gift of smile from you to yourself can do wonders on your self image. This will not only make you feel more confident in yourself and make you work harder for your goals. This will not only help you in making to look good on the outside, who doesn’t like a smiling person, but will also make you feel good on the inside. This smile, will portray a good image of you in others eyes but also make you look good in your eyes as well. And how hard is it to smile, even if it is a fake smile. Even a fake smile can do wonders in lifting up your bad mood. Do try smiling, it is a wonderful gift to be given to anyone plus it is free.

3. List ten things that you like about yourself before going to bed:

there are a lot likable things in a person, all you have to do is to recognize them, write them down and remind yourself about them each day. This will help you realize that you are not as bad as you perceive yourself to be. And hence it will improve your perception about yourself, therefore creating a positive self image. There is nothing worse than not realizing your own self-worth. Just take a pen and a paper and list down all the things that you like about yourself. It can be as small as your haircut that looks good on you or as big as some recent show of confidence in yourself, just write down. Thinking about these things will give you the much needed boost of confidence and morale. Come on, you can find ten things that you like about yourself. From your eyes, to your smile, to the way you dress; anything and everything will do. The important thing here is not what it is but how it makes you feel. If you feel good then consider is mission accomplished!

4. Get lots of sleep:

what is better for your confidence, getting enough sleep and feeling fresh and happy when you wake up or to be under slept and wake up cranky and irritable? It wouldn’t take a genius to answer that. So sleep well, sleep right, sleep enough so that you can have that perfect mood and perfect amount of confidence to go through your day. And not just confidence, but willpower to get through the day.

This can do wonder to your image in others’ eyes. No one likes to be around a cranky or a frustrated person, who does not have the willpower to complete the task at hand. This does dual damage, one affecting your image in others’ eyes and hence affecting your image in your eyes. Like it is said, well begun is half done; so if you have begun your day well then the battle is already half won.1. 

5. Wear flattering clothes:

Imagine two girls sitting in front of you, one is wearing the clothes that are suiting her body type, which she is able to carry of well and which look good on her even if she is wearing a simple t-shirt and a jeans; and the other girl is wearing most fashionable clothes and wearing everything that is in trend but does not know how to carry them off; who would have a better image about? Of course the one who wears flattering clothes!

Here let me bring to your attention the meaning of term flattering, it doesn’t just mean the trendy clothes but it means what looks good on you, what you feel comfortable in. So wear the clothes that you feel good in, that look good on you, even if they are not particularly in fashion. You need to impress yourself first more than anybody else. Why wear something that you don’t like and don’t feel confident about and hence in turn bring down your image instead wear what you love and turn your image in the positive direction.

6. Make your hair look good, wear make-up if you want to:

Want to dye your hair, get them dyed! What to get your hair cut really short, go for it! Want to wear that really nice dress that you bought, get up and wear it! Don’t stop yourself from doing anything that will make you happy. Instead do exactly those things! You want to wear make-up and look good, and then don’t stop yourself. Stop worrying about how people will think! They will think exactly what you want them to think! What you feel about yourself! So feel confident, feel good!

7. Do the things that interest you:

All your life you have done things that others wanted you to do. For once do things that you have wanted to do! Be the person that you had always dreamed of becoming! There is not going to be a better time for becoming that! You are changing yourself inside out, what could be better than this? Go on the road trip that you have always wanted to! Do something that you have always wanted to do! These are the experiences that can make a real difference in your confidence level. You need to break all limits that you set for yourself!

How To Make Decisions Like Successful People

1. Make biggest decisions early and minimize decision fatigue

Believe it or not, we can’t make unlimited good decisions throughout the day, at least without struggling. Top CEOs, presidents, etc. recognize this as decisions fatigue.

2. Ask yourself what you’d do if your emotions weren’t involved

I’m not saying you should turn your emotions off, but you should always be aware of them. Look at yourself almost in third person and notice what your immediate emotional reactions are before making a decision.

3. Gather as much information as possible but don’t let that paralyze you

You should know the facts before making a decision. Always be well-informed, but at the same time, don’t take weeks to make one decision because you’re afraid you don’t know every bit of data.

4. Think about the most important things you want to accomplish

Things like your morals, how you want to be perceived by people, etc. are big things that define us. Don’t every go in a direction that compromises your most important values or goals.

5. Get outside perspectives from qualified people

Don’t just rely on your own thoughts before making a decision. Get outside perspectives from people you trust. Just make sure they’re qualified in that area to be good advisers.

6. Refer to a process that works for you

Once you have a routine down that helps you come to better decisions, don’t try to just remember it off the top of your head every time. Instead, make a chart, checklist, or something else to reference every time a big decisions must be made.

7. Read a lot

One big thing that helps with decision-making is wisdom. You acquire wisdom from two main things: experience and reading. You’ll notice most successful people read daily.