Wednesday, November 29, 2017

5 Ways To Improve Your Self Image

1. Be empathetic. Learn how others feel and consider where they are coming from before criticizing or passing judgment. Even if you can't feel for everyone you meet, be certain that you feel with every living thing you encounter. It's the key to positive self-awareness.
2. Give of yourself. Spend time listening to and giving encouragement to someone else. Treat people like brothers and sisters. Provide value to someone through a kind act or gentle word. Make a contribution to someone or something for which there is no direct payoff. Share your talents with those around you.
3. Introduce yourself to a stranger who looks lost, confused or alone. You will be viewed as a savior. When you are in a group and feel uncomfortable, rest assured that there are others in the group who feel the same way. Get a conversation going with someone else. People love to tell you about themselves. Everyone yearns to be included and accepted. The best way to get acceptance is to give it.
4. See problems as opportunities. Make a list of your most pressing problems. Write a one-sentence definition of the problem. Now rewrite the problem, only this time view it as an opportunity or exercise to challenge your creative ingenuity. View the situation as if you were advising your best friend.
5. Learn to stay relaxed and friendly no matter how much tension you’re under. Instead of griping, single out something or someone to praise. When tension or anxiety is present in a room, lower the pitch and tone of your voice, breathe slowly and deeply, sit back and relax your muscles, and respond calmly.

Tuesday, November 28, 2017

3 Ways to Get Happy Right Now


Happiness Strategy #1: Engage in Meaningful Activities

People are seldom happier, says psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, than when they're in the "flow." This is a state in which your mind becomes thoroughly absorbed in a meaningful task that challenges your abilities. Yet, he has found that the most common leisure time activity -- watching TV -- produces some of the lowest levels of happiness.


Happiness Strategy #2: Foster Forgiveness

Holding a grudge and nursing grievances can affect physical as well as mental health, according to a rapidly growing body of research. One way to curtail these kinds of feelings is to foster forgiveness. This reduces the power of bad events to create bitterness and resentment, say Michael McCullough and Robert Emmons, happiness researchers who edited The Psychology of Happiness.


Happiness Strategy # 3: Don't Worry, Choose Happy


The first step, however, is to make a conscious choice to boost your happiness. In his book, The Conquest of Happiness, published in 1930, the philosopher Bertrand Russell had this to say: "Happiness is not, except in very rare cases, something that drops into the mouth, like a ripe fruit. ... Happiness must be, for most men and women, an achievement rather than a gift of the gods, and in this achievement, effort, both inward and outward, must play a great part."

Wednesday, November 22, 2017

3 Traits Of The Solution Oriented

  1. You look at a problem and see the possible outcomes—the possible futureIf you allow yourself to become emotionally involved in a problem—getting your feelings hurt or growing resentful over it—then you’re not really thinking about solutions. Don’t dwell in the past; start building the future.

  2. You think systematically and strategically. You’re at Point A. You need to get to Point B. A solutions-oriented mind immediately starts thinking about methods to close the gap and make that change.

  3. You have little time for excuses. The solutions-oriented leader simply doesn’t need coulda-shoulda-wouldas. The solutions-oriented leader doesn’t care about whose fault it is so much as what can be done to make things right.


Tuesday, November 21, 2017

4 Benefits of Having No Expectations

1. You take sole responsibility for your decisions. I push myself because I like the challenge. I clean the kitchen because I want it neater or because I don’t want anyone to have to worry about it. This sidesteps any of those thoughts that someone else is “making me” or expecting me to do something. This is about me running my life, doing what I consider important. It’s Nietzsche’s Ubermensch who creates his own values, who doesn’t succumb to herd mentality, who avoids going on auto-pilot.
2. You separate your wants from shoulds. The herd mentality and auto-pilot are usually tied to the shoulds. These come from our heads, our superego, the parent voice in our heads. Shoulds are by definition expectations imposed by others. When we fail to do them we feel guilty. When we do follow them we often feel driven...and expect a payoff for our efforts: Since I am doing what I really don’t want to do, I do expect others to appreciate, notice, give me a reward, pat me on the head, do what I expect. When the expected payoff doesn't come, our disappointment and resentment are fueled.
The way out of this mental dance is focusing on wants – heart, gut-based rather than head based. Values, core beliefs, foundation of our integrity. Expectations are a red flag that shoulds are the probable drivers. Skip the expectations and you’re falling back on wants. There’s you…and you.
3. You avoid feeling… disappointed, angry, etc…. Nuf said.
4. You avoid becoming a martyr. All this disappointment and resentment can overtime congeal into martyrdom, that lethal combination of domineering shoulds and unfulfilled expectations that drag on: I do everything I should. I expect people to …appreciate, reward, etc….it doesn’t happen. I trudge on and on and on. 

Monday, November 20, 2017

5 Ways To Be More Grateful For The Life You Are Living!

Here are 5 Ways to Be More Grateful For The Life You Are Living Today!

1. Remember the Bad. To be grateful in your current state, it is helpful to remember the hard times that you once experienced. When you remember how difficult life used to be and how far you have come, you set up an explicit contrast in your mind, and this contrast is fertile ground for gratefulness.
2. Watch your Language. Grateful people have a particular linguistic style that uses the language of gifts, givers, blessings, blessed, fortune, fortunate, and abundance. In gratitude, you should not focus on how inherently good you are, but rather on the inherently good things that others have done on your behalf.
3. Think Outside the Box. If you want to make the most out of opportunities to flex your gratitude muscles, you must creatively look for new situations and circumstances in which to feel grateful.
4. Ask Yourself Three Questions. Utilize the meditation technique known as Naikan, which involves reflecting on three questions: “What have I received from __?”, “What have I given to __?”, and “What troubles and difficulty have I caused?”
5. Go Through the Motions. If you go through grateful motions, the emotion of gratitude should be triggered. Grateful motions include smiling, saying thank you, and writing letters of gratitude.

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Friday, November 17, 2017

3 Signs Its Time To Take It To The Next Level

3 Tell Tale Signs ITs TIme TO Take it to the next level

1. YOU FEEL LIKE YOU DESERVE MORE

Your sheer volume of talent could fulfill the staffing requirements of a small entrepreneurial business and then some. The knowledge that you have to share with the world is tremendous. You feel like you should have been a shaman instead.
When you feel a disconnect between what you have now and what you feel like you are capable of giving to the world, it’s a sign that you need to challenge yourself more. We are not talking about material possessions, we are talking about lacking the opportunity to maximize your full potential.
This is a great time to ask yourself:
What would I do if money and time were no object?
Now, ask yourself why you haven’t been working toward this goal yet and decide to take one step toward achieving your dream by challenging yourself.

2. YOU FEEL THE NEED TO GROW THROUGH EXPERIENCE

When people you know talk about travelling, you have more places that you want to go than places that you’ve been. When people talk about the cultures and languages that they’ve experienced, you only know the one you were born into.
You need to diversify your portfolio of life experiences by challenging yourself more. Think of your life as an investment; invest your time, money, and energy into the activities that give you the biggest return. If it doesn’t feed your soul in some way, or help you grow into who you were meant to be, find what does.

3. YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND ANXIOUS PEOPLE

When you challenge yourself, you force yourself out of your comfort zone. This creates some anxiety about the new situation. If you aren’t sure you understand the emotion of anxiety, it’s time to challenge yourself more.
Fear of failure when we undertake a new challenge is normal. What is not normal is avoiding any new challenges out of fear of failure.

Bonus: YOU LIKE THE FACT THAT YOUR LIFE IS EASY

Unfortunately, when your life is easy, it’s a sign that you’ve fallen into a routine and that you need to challenge yourself more. Sure easy is hard to argue with, but it’s not what sucking the marrow of life is about.
Life and living it include both joys and pains, difficulties and times of ease and relaxation. If you are living it easy, you can be sure that a challenge will present itself to you soon, because nobody has it easy all of the time.
Rather than life happening to you when you aren’t prepared, get ready for it. Get physically and mentally fit. Be ready to take on the challenges that life is about to throw at you. Prepare for a mental assault and resolve to stay strong in your faith in your capabilities.
Challenge yourself to be physically strong enough to survive a significant illness. Even if you are healthy now, push yourself to be the strongest you can be so that if your body suffers a setback, you can handle it easily.

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Thursday, November 16, 2017

3 Steps For Successful Goal Setting

1. Develop confidence.

You must develop confidence to take actions that will advance you and your business or career. But building confidence is not as simple as it sounds. The most successful people are those who can manage the contradictions of life; who are aware of but not constrained by their limitations. Insecurity disables us from conquering our inner demons and making something of our lives. Arrogance makes us come off as know-it-alls, which erodes our level of influence, and after a while people will stop listening to us. Confidence is the balancing act between pride and uncertainty, and it is a work in progress.

You must develop confidence to take actions that will advance you and your business or career.


2. Talk it out.

You need to surround yourself with trusted friends and mentors who will be honest with you about your performance and what areas need improvement. Listen to them. Listen to yourself.
This ability to simultaneously doubt and trust yourself is at the core of effective self-assessment. For example, many people find themselves repeatedly crashing into the same brick wall, never changing course. If I find myself blocked at every turn—whether because of people above me or perhaps by some competitive situation—I step back and regroup. When we encounter multiple failures, our nature is to blame circumstances, other people, the equity of the universe. But we also have to step back and ask, Could it be me?
This is where the ability to have a cognitive discussion with yourself comes in, where you can disengage and look at the situation with a longer view. That perspective is critical to determining whether your actions are helping or hurting you and your organization.

3. Make your move.

You can carefully plot your own success and evaluate your effectiveness as you go along, but at the end of the day, you have to get out there and play in traffic. You are never going to be totally trained or prepared; there is no schedule of required classes. You have to meet people, develop relationships and swap best practices. You have to make things happen. Trust your healthy self-confidence and inner gyroscope to keep you on the right course.
The Bonus Step is 4. Hold YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE.
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Wednesday, November 15, 2017

3 Ways To Be More Enthusiastic

  1. 1. Figure out why you're lacking enthusiasm. You're on this page for a reason. Most likely someone around you is giving you crap about your lack of energy. Very few people look objectively at themselves and say, "Hmm. I wonder why I'm not peppier." But whatever your reason, you probably have an inkling as to why. Is it your job? Your love life? Or is it more of a universal, 24/7 thing that's dragging you down?
    • It's natural to get stuck in a rut. These things happen. They also end at some point. But then there's clinical depression and that's a whole other can of worms. If it's something you've never thought about, think about it now. Is it a lack of enthusiasm or is it a bigger issue? What's your gut tell you?
    2. Start thinking positively. If someone handed you a math test and said, "Here's the exam. It's stuff you didn't even dream of touching in college. Good luck, kid," how might that feel? Pretty daunting, probably. If instead they said, "Here's the exam -- it's gonna be tough, but it's doable," what would you think then? You'd be a lot more motivated and feel a lot better about taking that exam! The same goes for enthusiasm; you're not gonna get excited about something if it's terrible!
    • Think about it. How easy is it to be excited about something that's doable and that you know you're capable of achieving? It's a lot harder to get enthusiastic about things that we straight up don't think will ever materialize. And what's often the difference? Our way of thinking. Sometimes, that's literally the only obstacles
    3. Define your goals and how you'll achieve them. Now that you're at least trying to think positive, what are the goals that you'd like to achieve? How would you go about achieving them? What do you want to be enthusiastic about? It's hard to be enthusiastic when we're floundering about life without purpose.
    • Knowing exactly what you want to do and exactly how you want to go about it is giving you something to be enthusiastic about. If you want to get skinny, it's hard to be enthusiastic about wanting to get skinny. But if you're working out 30 minutes a week and eating tons of veggies, that's direct behavior to get excited about.

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

4 Ways to Attract Good ENERGY TODAY!

Here are 4 ways to attract good Energy Today!

Cut off negative influences. Often it’s not our own energy that’s low, but the toxic vibes of others that disrupt our well-being. Take a moment to think about how certain people in your life are affecting you: Are they draining you mentally and emotionally? Are their actions having adverse effects on you? Relationships are supposed to replenish your energy, not deplete it. Have no remorse in cutting off people who cause you more harm than good.
Recognize your power. Stop thinking that you’re some weak person who has no control over their circumstances. Your energy is the most incredible element about you. Recognize that you’re equipped with the ability to change anything with which you’re unhappy and create a greater reality. Your inner strength automatically picks up as you strive for new beginnings.
Stay still. You must learn to work with universal energy, not against it. When things just aren’t going your way, sit still and allow a more favorable energy to return. Like the tides of the ocean, energy ebbs and flows. And sometimes the universe is doing us a great service by not giving us what we want when we want it. So if you’re constantly trying and failing, take a step back and wait for the right energy in the right time.
Heal yourself. Miracles can’t manifest until you’ve unclogged your energy of hurtful memories and negative emotions. Forgive and detach. Leave everything that has damaged you in your past. Sometimes it’s as simple as telling a person that you’re releasing their energy from your life. Other times, spending time among nature or playing with children can act as soothing reminders of the most beautiful forms of energy in our world.

Monday, November 13, 2017

3 Small Changes That Make A Big Difference

1. Be Happy With Who YOU are!
Love Yourself and the skin you are in, and if you dont like something about yourself, Change it! Always remember you are uniquely created and beautiful just the way you are!


2. Express more vulnerability.
Compliment someone once a day. The lady sitting next to you on the metro with cute nails or the women standing in front of you at the check-out line who has some cool food in her cart. Instead of thinking about something positive you feel about them — tell them. While you’re eating a salad with your best friend on a Sunday afternoon, tell her that she means the world for you — and you’re thankful she puts up with you. Tell your parents that you don’t know how the heck they have as much patience as they do or the coworker who sits across from you that you appreciate how hard she is working and things will eventually get easier.


3. Switch up your day-to-day grind.
When the days start to blend together and you feel like you can’t change much due to your overwhelming work schedule, initiate a small change in the morning that’ll carry you through the day, like wearing a different perfume or cologne.

Thursday, November 9, 2017

Is Your PRIDE A Problem?

1. WE DON’T WANT TO ADMIT WHEN WE’RE WRONG.
This just shows the other person just how immature we are, and how little respect we have for them. While it prevents you from feeling bad, it ultimately just makes you look bad, and can really alienate people from you.

2. WE DON’T WANT TO ADMIT WHEN WE’VE FAILED.
Admitting we’ve failed, especially to the people we care about is hard because we’re afraid it’ll make us look weak in his eyes. Fortunately, if they love you, failing won’t make them think any less of you, because everyone experiences failure at some point in their lives, and it’s what helps you learn and grow. It just becomes a problem when you refuse to admit it.

3. WE DON’T WANT TO LISTEN TO OTHERS.
Getting caught up in our own ideas can keep us from listening to everyone else’s, which then means we can’t see things from other people’s perspective. Acting as though your thoughts and feelings are the only ones that matter will only alienate you and make you look too egocentric.

4. WE DON’T WANT TO TELL THE TRUTH.
Pride may cause us to lie, hide, or cover up the facts. Eventually though, the truth comes out, as well as your motivations for not telling it to begin with, but at that point it might be too late. Honesty is always the best policy — you’ll only look worse if you lie.

5. WE DON’T WANT TO ASK FOR HELP.
For some people, asking for help shows weakness and vulnerability. We want to be able to do everything on our own, and when we can’t, we feel like we’re just not strong enough. But every successful person in life had help at some point, and not asking for it when you need it can make you look foolish because you’re trying to tackle too much at once. Ultimately, you may even fail because of it, and your friends and family would wonder why you couldn’t just ask them for a hand.

Wednesday, November 8, 2017

4 Common Values People Love

It doesn't matter how or where you come from, there are characteristics we value in others which go beyond social, economic and religious factors. Here are what I deem the four most important:
Integrity
Integrity is trustworthiness, honesty and uprightness of character. We value people of integrity because we know what to expect from them. We know they will act honorably and that they will do what they think is right. We want people with integrity as our friends, on our teams and in our organizations.
Respect
Respect is honoring the worth and dignity of all people. Those who respect others treat them with fairness and courtesy. They treat others the way they themselves wish to be treated.
Loyalty
Loyalty is a commitment and faithfulness to a person or cause. Those who are loyal to their family, friends, organizations and country stand behind and support them during good times and bad times. They can be counted on to be there when the going gets difficult and to help out when the chips are down.
Responsibility
Those who accept responsibility are reliable, dependable and willing to take accountability for who they are and what they do. They believe they have a moral obligation to help others and to make a contribution to the society they live in.
No matter what values we choose live by, it is vital that we look at the larger picture, decide who we want to be, and live our lives based around those values.

Tuesday, November 7, 2017

3 Ways To Avoid Complacency

1. Start every day from scratch.

Sustainable excellence is about getting better every day. Great performers don’t think about past accomplishments. They don’t take days off when they show up to work. They come to work every day with the goal of getting better. The best performers have trained themselves to set goals for every practice session, important meeting or presentation. Continuous improvement is not a cliché but rather a way of life. 

2. Surround yourself with people who will tell you like it is.

Successful people attract followers who want to be associated with success but aren’t willing to pay the price to achieve it themselves. Their fawning attention feels flattering, but it carries a big price. Because they’re motivated to stay in someone else’s limelight, these adulators will not risk (or are not capable of) giving honest feedback. They fear that by telling the truth, they will be replaced in the success circle. This has been the downfall of many successful individuals, teams and organizations.

3. Focus on process instead of outcome.

Successful people, organizations and relationships develop a process for achieving and sustaining excellence. They follow this established approach with discipline. If they don’t achieve their goals, they adjust the process. People who focus only on outcomes may achieve success, but it will not be sustainable. There is no way to repeat success consistently without a method, formula or approach — that is, a process.  

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Monday, November 6, 2017

4 Ways To Find The Meaning Of Life



4 Ways To Find The Meaning Of Life


What is the meaning of life?
This post is concerned with finding meaning in your life, which is basically the challenge set before all us humans, and something that we are all going to approach differently. That being said, below are ways to help you figure out exactly why you are here, where your passions are hiding and what is going to be the spark to set your world alight with meaning.
Of course, there is also the theory that simply searching for meaning in your life, is the meaning itself, so don’t worry if nothing is jumping out at you, because simply by participating in the search, you are doing something incredibly meaningful.

1. Stop Playing By The Rules

Some people find that the meaning of life is to have a career, get married, and raise a family. However, that doesn’t mean that everyone is meant to do that in their lives!
When you are living a life that is dictated by others it becomes hard to find the purpose of your own life. Children are often directed in one way or another by their parents. For instance, their parents want them to become doctors or lawyers, yet as they grow up, they have a strong desire to do something else. Many of these children ignore their own desires because the rules dictate that they can’t have what they want.
If that sounds like you, then it’s time to dump the rules and start living the life you want. Why would you want to live your life for someone else? You will only regret it in the end. Once you realize that no one has to live behind a set of rules and that everyone is unique in their desires, then you will be able to better find the meaning of your life and where you are headed.

2. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

The term comfort zone is code for a place you live in yourself without fear.
Fear of the unknown, fear of failing, or fear of not being in control.
The definition of boredom and meaningless would have to have the word monotony in it somewhere—continual monotonous repetition creates boredom and certainly does not get you any closer to finding true meaning and excitement. Your comfort zone is simply a less extreme version of an obsessive, compulsive disorder. Strong, happy people with meaningful lives are adventurers. The meaning in your life is obviously not inside your comfort zone or you would already be living the life you were meant to live.
You become more of the person you were meant to be every time you push past your fears. It doesn’t matter how small or big the step is; once you take the step, your comfort zone becomes bigger, and life offers you more opportunities. Face your fears and grow.

3. Find Your Joy

What makes you happy in life? Do you enjoy travelling, helping others, being with family, or all of the above?
This step again relies on a solid grounding in making adventurous activities, that you may just find bring you an incredible amount of freedom and happiness. When you know what truly makes you happy and joyful in life, then you will find a sense of purpose to your life. You will find a direction that you need to go in order to create the most meaningful life possible for you.
For instance, if you enjoy helping others and it makes you feel as though you are doing something with a purpose when you do so, then find a way to incorporate that into your daily life. Change careers and become someone who can help others while getting paid for it.
There is nothing more fulfilling than living your purpose every single day.

4. Listen To Your Intuition

Your intuition is connected to your inner-self. Don’t get caught living your life in complete superficiality. Superficiality is meaningless; it is short term and soulless. Finding the real person inside yourself is not easy but will definitely help you see what is really important in your life.
Every time you have a choice to make, your intuition is there to guide you.
It tells you that you are making a bad choice with negative gut feelings and instincts. It also lets you know when you are making a good choice by giving you a sense of happiness and ease. When you learn to listen to your intuition, and follow those moments that feel right, then you will be on your way to living a life with meaning.

Friday, November 3, 2017

7 Ways To Improve Your Self Image Today!!

  1. Stop criticizing yourself:

STOP CRITICIZING YOURSELF! No good will come out of you if you keep beating yourself up for the little mistakes committed by you. You are after all a human, you are programmed to commit errors and learn from them. That is how it is going to be. Criticizing yourself is not going to help anybody. It will only make you feel less confident and hence make you look negative on the outside. No one believe in you if you don’t make them believe in yourself and that starts from forgiving yourself for the mistakes committed by you and learning from those mistakes for your future references. After all these are the experiences that makes up a person’s self image. If you keep holding these ‘experiences’ in the negative light then how can you expect to get a positive result out of them. Learn to forgive yourself. Trust me; this is the best thing that you can do to yourself.
  1.       When you look in the mirror, smile:

a simple gift of smile from you to yourself can do wonders on your self image. This will not only make you feel more confident in yourself and make you work harder for your goals. This will not only help you in making to look good on the outside, who doesn’t like a smiling person, but will also make you feel good on the inside. This smile, will portray a good image of you in others eyes but also make you look good in your eyes as well. And how hard is it to smile, even if it is a fake smile. Even a fake smile can do wonders in lifting up your bad mood. Do try smiling, it is a wonderful gift to be given to anyone plus it is free.
  1. List ten things that you like about yourself before going to bed:

there are a lot likable things in a person, all you have to do is to recognize them, write them down and remind yourself about them each day. This will help you realize that you are not as bad as you perceive yourself to be. And hence it will improve your perception about yourself, therefore creating a positive self image. There is nothing worse than not realizing your own self-worth. Just take a pen and a paper and list down all the things that you like about yourself. It can be as small as your haircut that looks good on you or as big as some recent show of confidence in yourself, just write down. Thinking about these things will give you the much needed boost of confidence and morale. Come on, you can find ten things that you like about yourself. From your eyes, to your smile, to the way you dress; anything and everything will do. The important thing here is not what it is but how it makes you feel. If you feel good then consider is mission accomplished!
  1. Get lots of sleep:

what is better for your confidence, getting enough sleep and feeling fresh and happy when you wake up or to be under slept and wake up cranky and irritable? It wouldn’t take a genius to answer that. So sleep well, sleep right, sleep enough so that you can have that perfect mood and perfect amount of confidence to go through your day. And not just confidence, but willpower to get through the day.
This can do wonder to your image in others’ eyes. No one likes to be around a cranky or a frustrated person, who does not have the willpower to complete the task at hand. This does dual damage, one affecting your image in others’ eyes and hence affecting your image in your eyes. Like it is said, well begun is half done; so if you have begun your day well then the battle is already half won.1. 
  1. Wear flattering clothes:

Imagine two girls sitting in front of you, one is wearing the clothes that are suiting her body type, which she is able to carry of well and which look good on her even if she is wearing a simple t-shirt and a jeans; and the other girl is wearing most fashionable clothes and wearing everything that is in trend but does not know how to carry them off; who would have a better image about? Of course the one who wears flattering clothes!
Here let me bring to your attention the meaning of term flattering, it doesn’t just mean the trendy clothes but it means what looks good on you, what you feel comfortable in. So wear the clothes that you feel good in, that look good on you, even if they are not particularly in fashion. You need to impress yourself first more than anybody else. Why wear something that you don’t like and don’t feel confident about and hence in turn bring down your image instead wear what you love and turn your image in the positive direction.
  1. Make your hair look good, wear make-up if you want to:

Want to dye your hair, get them dyed! What to get your hair cut really short, go for it! Want to wear that really nice dress that you bought, get up and wear it! Don’t stop yourself from doing anything that will make you happy. Instead do exactly those things! You want to wear make-up and look good, and then don’t stop yourself. Stop worrying about how people will think! They will think exactly what you want them to think! What you feel about yourself! So feel confident, feel good!
  1. Do the things that interest you:

All your life you have done things that others wanted you to do. For once do things that you have wanted to do! Be the person that you had always dreamed of becoming! There is not going to be a better time for becoming that! You are changing yourself inside out, what could be better than this? Go on the road trip that you have always wanted to! Do something that you have always wanted to do! These are the experiences that can make a real difference in your confidence level. You need to break all limits that you set for yourself!

Wednesday, November 1, 2017

How To Make Decisions Like Successful People

1. Make biggest decisions early and minimize decision fatigue

Believe it or not, we can’t make unlimited good decisions throughout the day, at least without struggling. Top CEOs, presidents, etc. recognize this as decisions fatigue.

2. Ask yourself what you’d do if your emotions weren’t involved

I’m not saying you should turn your emotions off, but you should always be aware of them. Look at yourself almost in third person and notice what your immediate emotional reactions are before making a decision.

3. Gather as much information as possible but don’t let that paralyze you

You should know the facts before making a decision. Always be well-informed, but at the same time, don’t take weeks to make one decision because you’re afraid you don’t know every bit of data.

4. Think about the most important things you want to accomplish
Things like your morals, how you want to be perceived by people, etc. are big things that define us. Don’t every go in a direction that compromises your most important values or goals.

5. Get outside perspectives from qualified people

Don’t just rely on your own thoughts before making a decision. Get outside perspectives from people you trust. Just make sure they’re qualified in that area to be good advisers.

6. Refer to a process that works for you

Once you have a routine down that helps you come to better decisions, don’t try to just remember it off the top of your head every time. Instead, make a chart, checklist, or something else to reference every time a big decisions must be made.

7. Read a lot

One big thing that helps with decision-making is wisdom. You acquire wisdom from two main things: experience and reading. You’ll notice most successful people read daily.